Sayings from Kare

In a civilization when love is gone we turn to justice and when justice is gone we turn to power and when power is gone we turn to violence.

The fun is in discovering how the sum of us can be greater than apart.

Label yourself before someone else does.

Whoever most vividly characterizes a situation usually determines how others see it in their mind’s eye, feel about it, and act upon it.

Give verbal snapshots that penetrate the mind and the gut in an instant then linger, leaving a bright after image.

The power to define is the power to choose.

Power resides not in aggressiveness, but in conscious choice.

Once you know that nobody can take from you what is really yours, you stop trying to protect it.

Beliefs shape our experience not the other way around.

You can disagree with an argument, but not with a personal experience.
You cannot defect from an insight. You cannot unsee what you have seen.

Problems seldom exist at the level at which they are expressed.

Opportunity is often inconvenient.

Go slow to go fast

Failure is usually no more fatal than success is permanent.

Coercive power saps energy from everyone. Shared power showers energy on everyone.

Some people control by defining the rules of the relationship. You can choose to define the rules of how you will relate. Being defined by others gives them control. Defining yourself gives you choices.

Shut people out and they shut up. Bring people in and they open up.

Resenting someone is a way of never leaving.

Don’t let somebody else determine your behavior.

As you fix the problem you won’t have to fix the blame.

Holding onto your anger is like clutching a vibrating pole. The harder you clench, the more every part of your being vibrates in reaction.

Strengths spread just as fears do.

The stronger the signal you send yourself of your highest purpose, the higher the priority you assign to that area.

Think well of yourself. The subconscious can’t take a joke.

Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.

Strengths spread just as fears do. Supplant your fear with a greater motivation.

Look to their positive intent, especially when they appear to have none.

When they don’t cooperate, cooperate more.

It is easier to act your way into a more positive feeling than to feel your way into a positive way of acting.

We can’t cultivate positive people with negative feedback.

What we praise in others, we encourage to flourish.

Praise others when they are around people who most matter to them.

People like people who are like them. People like people who like them.

In many cases stress is caused, not by the event itself, but rather by our response to the event.

Act genially in the face of rancor. You may be the only angel in that person’s life.

You have three choices in any situation; the sooner you choose, the less stress you’ll feel: change, accept or leave.

Quieting the chattering mind promotes directed action.

Love is not always power; that may be as good a description of the human predicament as we are likely to get.

The sweetest revenge is a well-lived life.