by Kare Anderson | Jun 22, 2019 | Article, behavior, Conflict, Connecting, Likeability
When you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Hint: “The opposite...
by Kare Anderson | Apr 4, 2018 | behavior, Conflict, Connecting, Friendship, Likeability, Listening
When I saw my dear friend, Daniel, walking down the hall toward me that morning I smiled and held up the book I’d gotten for him. When Daniel saw me he looked stricken. Then he quickly wheeled around and shot into the men’s room. Deeply hurt, I avoided him for several...
by Kare Anderson | Jan 20, 2016 | behavior, Choice, Conflict, Connecting, Friendship
Whatever behavior we praise we encourage to flourish in others – especially when they are around us. Whatever we criticize or “simply” snub goes deeper into their consciousness however. Hint: Speak to their positive intent, especially when it appears they...
by Kare Anderson | Oct 26, 2012 | behavior, Book, contagion, decisionmaking
No you are not imagining it. Political insults are getting increasingly personal, widespread and intense – not just between candidates and their surrogates but amongst almost all of us at this point. Some friendships are shattering. Reputations smeared. Even formerly...
by Kare Anderson | Dec 11, 2011 | Miscellaneous
Even when shown circles, triangles and other geometric objects randomly moving about on a screen, we tend to turn them into familiar objects. Then we instinctively attempt to determine what they mean, a study found. Two examples: 1. “When asked what they had been...