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Create a “Hook” on Which Others Can Visibly Hang Their Ideas

“Doing something isn’t always better than doing nothing” and “The simplest rules create the most effective experience” are two of the six Laws of Subtraction advocated by Matthew May to accomplish more by doing less better. How cleverly involving of Matthew May to design the book that creates a “click moment” of recognition and response in others, according to Frans Johansson in The Click Moment. Thus he creates an enticing mental “hook” on which others can hang their related ideas. May offering just six interwoven pieces of advice to simplify our lives by letting lesser things go so we can do some things better.… Read More

How to Have More Happiness Moments

An elementary school teacher in rural Arkansas made a bracelet of charms of each student in her class so she could continually remind herself of how she cared about each one, and her passion for teaching them. The rest of the story is the real clincher for seeing that happiness can be a choice. She wakes up each morning with the painful fatigue that most face when they have the chronic, erratic and incurable disease, multiple sclerosis. Many would give up and quit working yet some don’t, as Shawn Achor shows in his new book Before Happiness. Why do different people in the same situation find a… Read More

Be A Successful Quitter Sooner Rather Than Later

Ironically when I was hastily hired, as an outsider, to lead a team at a company, my titular boss had placed bets with his colleagues about how long I’d last. Little did he know of the unexpected bond that naturally formed in the first meeting with my team. You see, they were all ex-military officers and I’d been a journalist. We’d lived by deadlines. A pejorative term both professions sometimes used, in frustration, when discussing individuals who did not keep deadlines was “civilians.” Together we would reverse engineer our end goal, set priorities and deadlines, then make what Peter Sims dubbed Little Bets, iteratively experimenting… Read More

Seven Ways to Sway Others

Marshall wasn’t aware that we were closely watching him as he strode into the pool table showroom but he was the ninth unwitting participant in our experiment. He glanced at the sign “Our Three Most Popular Models” that hung above an ornately carved, antique pool table, flanked closely on either side by a bare-bones model and a lean, modern pool table. Frankly it would have been hard to avoid this scene. The sign was hanging from the ceiling at eye-level and the tables rested on the curved end extension of plush, royal purple carpet upon which he stepped after walking… Read More

We Are Constantly Being Swayed by Unconscious Cues

When we feel manipulated we usually resent it. More often we are not aware of hidden cues that affect our emotions and actions. A pattern, movement, seemingly inconsequential gesture or other “signal” unconsciously influences how we feel about someone or a situation. With the advent of technology we are rapidly learning more ways we are swayed by incidents, sequences of actions, smells and more. Learn how to be more aware of how you are being influenced — and how you can pull others closer — at my newest post in my Connected and Quotable column under the Leadership section at… Read More